Building Bridges

Dealing with Loss
PART II (continued)

Getting additional help when you want it

28. Ask your mediator or attorney.
You may have a trusting relationship with a caring family mediator or attorney. These professionals know that the divorce process can add to your emotional burdens, and that your distress can interfere with conducting the process in ways that will be best for you and your children.

Family law professionals can help you decide whether to seek additional help for your children or for yourself in dealing with the pain associated with your divorce. They can recommend trustworthy mental health professionals who can provide such help in a competent and caring way. 

29. Ask other professionals in your community.
People in other professions can provide other kinds of help. You may find it useful to talk with your children's physician; with a member of the clergy; with teachers and others in your children's school; with a children's librarian; or with a bookseller who specializes in books for children or books for teachers. Ask how they can help you, and feel free to ask if they know of any other helpful resources that might be available to you.

30. Give yourself permission to get what you need for yourself, in ways that feel right to you.
It's a long road. 
You deserve to have your needs met.
Be gentle with yourself.
If you wish, talk to us.

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