Helping children attach meaning to what they are
When your children see you asking yourself this question,
they naturally start examining the same issue. They begin to discover,
alone and in their interactions with you, that life's setbacks call
not only for grieving, but also for asking, "What meaning do I attach
to life's events?"
You can let your children see that the way you deal with the losses associated with your divorce results in your becoming a stronger, more loving person. Your own sense of values is strengthened. Your capacity to deal with change is increased. Your ability to triumph over obstacles is greater. You grow in wisdom, and your ability to feel compassion and to love others is enhanced.
This gift to your children is one that they will build on for the rest of their lives.